Called to Mission, Not Marriage

Francis Kuntenga, a Malawian mission worker serving with SIM among the Yao people in Mozambique, chose celibacy after a heartbreak. Today, he sees his decision as a strategic calling for gospel work. Despite cultural pressure and personal struggles, including loneliness and suspicion from his community, singleness has helped him to serve in places too risky for those with families, such as the DRC and northern Nigeria. 

I am a Malawian missionary, and for the past 7 years I have served with SIM among the Yao people in Mozambique. My work includes trauma healing, evangelism, agriculture, discipleship, and property maintenance. Most days I run our Foundations for Farming ministry, visit people in the afternoons and help lead weekly church services. 

I sensed God’s call to missions as a teenager while pastoring my youth church. After attending a missions conference, something stirred within me. Six months later, I made the decision to pursue full-time cross-cultural ministry. 

 I stay grounded by walking closely with God.

In African culture, ministry is often expected to go hand-in-hand with marriage. But I believe singleness can honour God just as much. We see that in the lives of Jesus and Paul. 

Being single has opened doors. I have worked in places like the DRC and northern Nigeria, where I could not have taken a wife or family. I have more freedom to travel where God sends me, and I can build trust across genders without suspicion from a spouse. But singleness also brings challenges such as loneliness, misunderstanding and emotional strain. 

I stay grounded by walking closely with God, setting boundaries, and staying connected to others. My church and mission agency support me practically and emotionally. They encouraged me to rest, supported me during a season of burnout, and regularly pray for me. 

Being single has opened doors. I have worked in places like the DRC and northern Nigeria, where I could not have taken a wife or family.

Temptation is real, but I guard myself through Scripture, prayer, accountability, and wise relationships. I believe churches should stop pushing people into marriage simply because they are gifted in ministry. Not everyone is called to marry. Some of us serve God more effectively by remaining single, and that should be valued and supported. 

To anyone considering full-time missions as a single person: count the cost. It is not always easy, but the freedom it offers can lead to some incredible mission opportunities. I believe heaven rejoices when we give ourselves fully to God’s call.